Entries from January 2010 ↓

“Merely through the constant need to ward off, one can become weak enough to be unable to defend oneself any longer.”
~Friedrich Nietzsche~

Don't Let Anger Possess You!

Feeling traumatize by a parent in childhood can leave a lingering, festering wound that never heals.

We are defenseless against a verbal or physical brute when small, but eventually we reach an age when we challenge the oppressor to a fight or at least a reason for their aggression.  The parent either relents or ignores you from that point onward.

I often heard people say, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”  Not so.  Being ignored by a parent or parents is more painful than a daily belt lashing.

The judge finds the defendant guilty as charged.  For the sake of inner peace of the victim, the judge rules clemency.  Parents do the best they can which isn’t always much.

“Look up and not down. Look forward and not back. Look out and not in, and lend a hand.”

~Edward Everett Horton~

There are thousands of gurus and wannabes telling you to get focused.  Then – in the same breath – they tell you to write down a gazillion goals for seven or eight categories, then narrow them down to a half-dozen or so and focus on them.

So now you have, let’s say, 40 goals that you are supposed to focus on.  The only trouble is that the 39 sitting on your hard drive are screaming for your attention.  When a stumbling block arrives – as it always does – you jump to another and then another, and then it’s lunchtime, then it’s siesta time, then it’s dinner time, and finally it’s Miller time.

If you snooze, you lose in this high-pace world we live in.  But the whole tamale does not consist of 40 appetizers to choose from, rather from one entree to nibble at until it is consumed.

The judge calls this court to session: